It happens to all of us. The phone won't stop ringing, people keep asking you the same question, or your boss hasn't noticed the extra work you have done. It feels like it will never end. You're ready to scream. More and more people are reporting, that they feel stressed out at work

According to a survey from The American Psychological Association, more than one-third of American workers experience chronic work stress. This is costing American corporations billions of dollars a year in lost work hours and medical bills. Not to mention, what the cost is to your quality of life, both in and out of work.

After working at non-profits, for-profits and in my own practice. I've learned a few things on how to reduce stress in the work place, that I'd like to share with you. Here are six tips to help reduce stress at work:

  1. Boundaries! Need I say more. I started working straight out of college and didn't understand the importance of saying no. Before, I knew it I was buried in work. Which meant I didn't have much of a social life nor was I taking very good care of myself. It also caused burn out and resentment. Don't say yes when you mean no. Make sure to ask lots of question about the project your supervisor would like you to take…

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We've all heard about and have experienced stress. We live in a fast paced society. Everything must be done now. This is not realistic and can cause unnecessary stress in our lives. It's important to slow down and experience "being in the moment."

We are always worried about the future. We really can't predict the future, so why try? Not only are we always trying to predict the future, we predict the most horrible things will happen. If you are going to spend a lot of time trying to predict the future, then at least have a happy ending. You will eventually get that promotion, buy a home, take your dream vacation, etc. But, you need to give it time.

Here are 10 simple ways to reduce stress:

  1. Be mindful. This is the practice of staying in the present. We can't go back, and like I said earlier, we can't predict the future. So, why not stay in the present. Savor the moment. Add, at least 5 minutes of mindfulness to your day. Set aside a time for it everyday, and stick to it. After a while, you will notice a change and you will feel more relaxed when life seems out of control.
  2. Call a friend. Good friendships are important for a healthy lifestyle. The next time you feel stressed, take some time out and…

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Everyone always says, 'It's no big deal just ignore it.' That strategy is alright some of the time but not all of the time. Ignoring mild misbehavior is a legitimate parenting strategy. It shows your little one that his/her antics won't get your attention. This means he/she will be less likely to repeat it in the future.

However, not all behavior should be ignored. If it is, it will lead to worse problems down the road. Keep a look out for these small misbehaviors and take action ASAP. Here are 6 little behavior problems you can't ignore:

  1. Interrupting when you are talking. Your child may be really excited and want to tell you an important part about their day. When you allow your child to butt into your conversation, you give your child the message that it's alright. This doesn't teach your child to be considerate of others. This also doesn't teach your child to occupy their time on their own. The next time this happens let you child know you will be busy. Suggest a few toys or games they can play with. If they continue to interrupt you, steer them back in the right direction.
  2. Exaggerating the truth. At first the exaggerations are little. Maybe, your child told you they finished all of their vegetables. When the truth is they hardly touched…

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Parenting is no easy job. It's also a job that never ends. If you have taken on this job, you need to congratulate yourself. You are responsible for the well being of another human being. Parents have a tremendous impact on a child. Now and in the future. Remember Freud, it's true the way we relate to our parents is how we learn to relate to the world as adults.

I find a lot of parents want to be perfect. If you feel this way, you are setting yourself up for failure. Nobody is perfect. You also set the example of having to be perfect for your child. This is unrealistic and can cause problems down the road. I also find that children are way overbooked these days. Your child doesn't have to do everything now. They have a whole life time to fulfill their dreams.

Here are 10 easy ways to be a fantastic parent:

  1. Don't try to fix everything. Give your child a chance to find their own solutions. Depending on their age, of course. It's alright to acknowledge they are frustrated, simply by saying 'I see you are frustrated.' This will help in the future. They will gain more confidence in themselves. 
  2. Play with your child. Play is your child's language. Gear the type of play based on their age. Toddlers love…

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As a therapist, I hear it all the time. 'I just can't do this, or I'm just not good enough, etc.' It's easy to put yourself down. We all have an inner dialogue, it's natural. Unfortunately, many people use it to beat themselves up. This can really bring you down. It's true, we are what we think. Your thoughts will affect how you feel. Here are ten tips to help conquer your inner dragon:

  1. Learn to relax. This is a great way to make your inner dragon go away. Take a yoga class or a meditation class. You can also listen to meditation on your iPod. Take a five  minute break during the day to clear your mind and do some deep breathing.
  2. Have a change of scenery. This sounds simple and it is. Go for a drive on a country road or visit a nearby town. Take a trip to the beach or a nearby lake. This will help mix things up and you won't feel overwhelmed in your own environment.
  3. Avoid negative people. When you're depressed it's not that uncommon to attract negative people into your life. Negative people can drag you further down. You want to be around positive people who will help build you up. This will help decrease depression and help give you a positive attitude.
  4. Don't label yourself. It's…

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