The Secrets Of Happy Kids - 5 Things That Will Make Them Happy


We all want our kids to be happy. We try to give them everything we didn't have as a child. We sign them up for sports, music lessons and art classes. We want them to be creative and outgoing. Have a good group of friends and be knowledge. 

Sometimes, this can come at a cost. I see many children in my practice and are overbooked, these days. I think a lot of parents mean well, but push their kids too hard. This can cause a kid to feel anxious or not good enough. Which, I know, as a parent this is the last thing you want.

Children are actually happy by nature. They don't have the pressure of the world on their shoulders. They are able to experience happiness through the small things in life. They enjoy learning and seeing new places. Like, the grocery store, if they haven't been. Enjoy your child while they are still at home. They will grow up quick. Here are five tips that will help make them happy:

  1. Play with your child. Play is your child's language. I mean get on the ground and play with them. Take delight in playing with your child. You can play at the park or play a board game inside. When parents play with their children, it helps their self esteem. 
  2. Allow your children…

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Everybody is talking about gratitude these days, and there is a reason why. I really does help make people feel better. It's easy to focus on what you don't have or don't like in life. I'm asking you to challenge your thinking and change your mindset.

Maybe you weren't expecting this but I'm going to talk about depression in this article. Depression affects many people. The Centers for Disease Control estimates that 19 million Americans suffer from it. At some point in their life, 10%-25% of women will become depressed and 5%-12% of men will become depressed. Depression isn't fun and it can be debilitating. Here are five signs that you are depressed:

  1. You laugh and cry at times that don't call for it. In psychology this is also known as "inappropriate affect." This is when you over-react to insignificant sadness, and ignore major league bad news. Laughing when you lose your job is a good example of this.
  2. You have trouble accepting praise or goodwill. Martin Seligman, the psychologist that changed our thinking about depression. He studied the behavior of dogs that were given electrical shock. Eventually the dogs would just lie there. They wouldn't even respond to tugs on their leashes that could lead them to safety. The human paradigm, when you find yourself ignoring or discounting compliments, chances are you're depressed.
  3. You feel nothing.…

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We all know what it feels like to be stressed. Stress can happen for many different reasons. Deadlines at work, taking care of the children, paying the bills, etc. Nobody is exempt from stress. And, while some stress might be good, meaning it might help push you a bit. Too much of stress, is not good.

There will be times in your life that you feel very stressed. What's important is that you learn to cope with stress. It's easy to gravitate towards unhealthy coping mechanisms such as: food, alcohol and even drugs. These may help for a little while, but in the long run they will only make matters worse.

What's stressful for one person, may not be stressful for another. It's important that you know what creates stress for you in your life. This is not a time to compare yourself to others. There are many ways to control your stress and keep it at bay. Here are 10 tips to help keep the stress monsters away:

  1. Don't wait until the last minute. We've all been there and we know how that story ends. Remember, when you were in college and you would wait until the night before a term paper was due to write it. You barely made it to class and probably didn't get the grade you would of liked to…

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Whether you are in a good relationship or a dysfunctional one, there will always be conflict. What matters most is how you manage the conflict. In the Gottman's research, they found that 69% of problems in a relationship weren't solvable. What this means is you need to work on understanding one another in your relationship.

When couples come in for counseling, they want to solve their problems and move on. They aren't usually that happy when they find out most of their problems aren't solvable. Going for a solution now can actually hurt the relationship. This also means you don't have to fix everything. Which I find as a relief. When I was younger I was a strong problem solver and now I'm not. This has changed my attitude on life tremendously, and in a good way.

Don't worry if you are trying to solve your relationship problems, you aren't alone. Many of us have done it and may still try to in the future. Couples tend to get stuck in their problems. This leads to a lot of conflict and misunderstanding. We have found at the Gottman Institute, that these are the four ways to ruin a perfectly good relationship:

  1. Criticize (Attack) - Using "you" statements.
  2. Defensive - You attacked, so I will defend myself. (We've heard Donald Trump use this one) This is…

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The Four Most Common Relationship Problems And How To Fix Them

Whether you are in a good relationship or a dysfunctional one, there will always be conflict. What matters most is how you manage the conflict. In the Gottman's research, they found that 69% of problems in a relationship weren't solvable. What this means is you need to work on understanding one another in your relationship.

When couples come in for counseling, they want to solve their problems and move on. They aren't usually that happy when they find out most of their problems aren't solvable. Going for a solution now can actually hurt the relationship. This also means you don't have to fix everything. Which I find as a relief. When I was younger I was a strong problem solver and now I'm not. This has changed my attitude on life tremendously, and in a good way.

Don't worry if you are trying to solve your relationship problems, you aren't alone. Many of us have done it and may still try to in the future. Couples tend to get stuck in their problems. This leads to a lot of conflict and misunderstanding. We have found at the Gottman Institute, that these are the four ways to ruin a perfectly good relationship:

  1. Criticize (Attack) - Using "you" statements.
  2. Defensive - You attacked, so I will defend myself. (We've heard Donald Trump use this one) This is also known as, righteous indignation
  3. Contempt…

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