Spring is here, the birds are chirping and we have extra light. Don’t you love it. I’ve noticed that many people didn’t even notice that today was the first day of spring. This tells me they are way too busy.

More and more this is becoming the ‘norm’ in our culture. Whatever happened to take time and smell the roses? Instead, it’s take the kids to school, drive in bumper to bumper traffic, go all day and don’t stop for lunch. 

It’s time to slow down. You life depends on it. Your body needs to rest. It’s like a car. It’s important to take care of it, this means fuel it up and get the oil changed regularly. If you don’t take care of your car, it will break down. The same thing will happen to your body. 

Here are seven days of self care:

Monday: This is one of my favorite days of the week. I know, so many of you hate it. For most this is when the work week begins. I like to start Monday with a good workout at the gym. I go to one of my favorite cardio classes. I love to start Monday’s with a good sweat. This helps get me focused and positive. This is the perfect time to work on changing your mindset. Instead of saying…

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A lot of people feel like dating in your 40’s is like being is hell. I have to say I disagree. Sure, there are advantages to dating when you are younger, but when you are in your 40’s you don’t have the pressure you did when you were younger.

Most likely you are more financially secure and in a career you like. You either have children or have given up on the idea of children. And, you aren’t in a rush. This is the time where you can really enjoy dating.

You also have a much better idea of what you want in a relationship. Meaning what you will put up with and what you won’t. As human beings we need to connect. If you feel this way then you are normal. Remember, it’s alright to say no and to wait for something better to come along.

Here are 12 questions to tell if he is a keeper or not.

  1. Why are you single?
  2. What is your biggest insecurity?
  3. Are you looking for something serious or casual?
  4. Are you thinking about making any major residential moves in the next year?
  5. Have you ever struggled with any mental health issues?
  6. Have you ever been arrested?
  7. Have you ever been in a serious relationship before?
  8. What memories have scarred you for life?
  9. Are you close with your…

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Remember when having children was just a dream. How did you imagine parenting would be? It’s easy to get caught up in the fairytale. Not only did you dream your children would play together and get along great, they will also get along great with their parents and everyone else.

By now, I’m sure you realize this isn’t true. Not only is it not true for you, it’s not true for anyone else. All families have their shares of highs and lows. And, not all of our dreams turn out the way we imagined.

Maybe, you’re still in a tiny house or apartment. Then comes the unexpected expenses, you didn’t realize your medical insurance had such a high deductible or the car breaks down. Your parents suddenly pass away or you are forced to move to an area you don’t like. Whatever the reason, life doesn’t always turn out the way we thought it should. 

The reason kids don’t get a long can vary. Maybe, they are two entirely different kids. One likes to be with their friends all the time, and the other is happy at home watching T.V. Whatever the case is, it’s alright to be different from one another. Your kids may also be different from you. When you were their age, you may have loved to read and write. Now…

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In the beginning love is bliss. You can’t wait to see each other. You have so much in common and the sparks are flying. As time goes on, things change. You buy a house, have children and get promoted at your job. This is all great, but what happens to your relationship?

We start to put all these other things first and our relationship last. Not only is this hard on intimacy, it’s hard on the friendship. The Gottman’s have been studying relationships for over four decades. What they’ve found, is what keeps the sparks flying is a strong friendship. This is true for both men and women.

We’ve put together a list of questions that will help deepen your relationship and add meaning to it. Make sure to schedule some time with your partner each day to ask some of these questions. 

Here are 21 questions to help keep the sparks flying.

  1. What major stresses are you facing right now?
  2. What are all the details of your day?
  3. What is one of your greatest fears or disaster scenarios?
  4. Describe in detail what I did yesterday, or today.
  5. What is the most embarrassing thing that happened to you this past week?
  6. What would you consider your dream job?
  7. What medical problems do you worry about?
  8. What was your worst childhood experience?
  9. What is your favorite time of…

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Are you tired of feeling stressed out? It seems like there is always something, especially living in the Bay Area. It starts with getting the kids ready in the morning, and then traffic on the freeway. Next thing you know, you are at work. The day is filled with meeting, reports, phone calls, etc. Before you know it the day is over. Where did the time go?

Then, you are left feeling like time is passing you by and that you are missing out. If you feel this way, you aren’t alone. More and more people are reporting an increase in stress. It’s actually nothing new. The good news is, you can take back your life.

Here are 7 tips to help you let go of stress:

  1. Unplug. We live in an electronic age, and we always want to be plugged in. Fearful we may miss out on the latest gossip. This means that your brain is never unplugged. We really need to give our brain a break. The next time you take a break at work, leave your phone behind. You actually won’t be missing out, and you’ll be surprised at how much more effective you’ll be at the office. Do not take any electronic gadgets with you to bed. The work will always be there the next day, and you need your rest. 
  2. Practice…

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