10 Distractions To Help Get You Through The Season



Summer is over and fall is here. This means change is near or has already started. For some, it may have never stopped. With busy work schedules and children is school, you may never feel like you have any time for yourself. Next, the holiday season will be here, and we will all be wondering where the year went. Here are ten distractions to help you have fun during fall:

  1. Go outside and watch the birds and other animals. Nature is a great escape and a good way to clear your mind. Leave all gadgets behind and just enjoy being outside.
  2. Sign up for a class that excites you at a local college, adult school or online. Make sure it is something fun that will help you keep your mind off of work and family.
  3. Make a list of ten things you're good at or that you like about yourself when you're feeling good, and keep it with you to read when you're feeling upset. This will help you focus on the positive rather than the negative.
  4. Take photographs. Take pictures of the outdoors, a pretty sunset, friends and family. Keep them stored on your phone or computer and look at them when you are feeling stressed or overwhelmed.
  5. Read your favorite book, magazine, paper or poem. Reading is good for the brain.
  6. Write a…

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5 Signs Your Depressed But Don't Know It


Depression affects many people. The Centers for Disease Control estimates that 19 million Americans suffer from it. At some point in their life, 10%-25% of women will become depressed and 5%-12% of men will become depressed. Depression isn't fun and it can be debilitating. Here are five signs that you are depressed:

  1. You laugh and cry at times that don't call for it. In psychology this is also know as "inappropriate affect." This is when you over-react to insignificant sadness, and ignore major league bad news. Laughing when you lose your job is a good example of this.
  2. You have trouble accepting praise or goodwill. Martin Seligman, the psychologist that changed our thinking about depression. He studied the behavior of dogs that were give electrical shock. Eventually the dogs would just lie there. They wouldn't even respond to tugs on their leashes that could lead them to safety. The human paradigm, when you find yourself ignoring or discounting compliments, chances are your depressed.
  3. You feel nothing. Many people choose to ignore that they feel sad. It's easy to get stuck in neutral when you ignore your feelings. This can create a zombie-like approach, which creates anxiety in those around you and alienates those that care for you.
  4. Conflicts quickly escalate into fights. This is an easy way to dull the feelings of depression. You…

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5 Ways To Survive A Breakup


Everyone knows being dumped is the absolute pits. There are many reasons couples breakup. Maybe the love just isn't there anymore. Remember, you will get through it. In life we go through seasons and one season doesn't last forever. Here are five tips to help you get you through a breakup:

  1. Do something everyday to help yourself heal. Watch some self-help TV/DVD's, learn to meditate and never underestimate the power of positive prayer. Exercise, read or call a friend. Pick things that will be fun or beneficial to do them. Take action and don't let the mood take over.
  2. Cry all you want. Crying is not a sign of weakness. You need to let your feeling out. If you don't, they can come out in other ways. Like in body aches or a headache. It is healthy to release grief and pain. 
  3. Research. Find out what other's have done after a breakup. Especially the one's that are thriving. How did they achieve peace of mind? Look on the internet a read books. 
  4. Find emotional support. There are many support groups out there for the newly single. You can also see a therapist. This will help you process your feelings and learn from the past. Don't try to tough it out on your own. Support from others is healing. Talking about your feelings of…

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As you know, Mother's Day was yesterday. I am so glad that I got to spend it with my mother. I never thought there could be anything worse than hearing you had breast cancer. But, I was wrong. Last month I found out my mother had cancer, marginal zone lymphoma to be exact. She has started treatment and has been doing well. This Mother's Day was a little extra special. She really is my favorite person and my best friend. She has always been there for me and I couldn't imagine life without her. This article is dedicated to her. Here are ten reasons I'm thankful for my mom

Her unwavering faith. She never gave up on us even through the hard times and she has always been there for me.
Her discipline and strong character. She has always been dedicated to her family. She is a great role model.
Her patience. I wish I could be as patient as her.
Her laughter. She has a great sense of humor and a special way about her.
For reading to me. She always emphasized getting a good education. If it weren't for her I probably wouldn't have my Master's degree.
For driving me to swimming lessons. She always said exercise was important. I totally agree, it's not just good for you physically but it's good for…

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3 Reasons To Embrace Rejection
"Everyday is a fresh start." Unknown



We've all been rejected at one time or another. Whether, we'd like to admit it or not. Nobody really likes it but it is a part of life. It's easy to have hurt feelings and want to blame the other person. What's best is to admit your part in it, regardless of how small it may be. Here are three things you can learn from rejection:

  1. You Learn How To Not Take Things Personally. You don't need to over think everything. Remember, life is a numbers game. It's not always about what you could have done better. Sometimes, the problem really is with the other person. Perhaps, that person rejected you because they are in a complicated relationship. Maybe, you didn't get the interview because the person went with a friend. Try not to take everything so personally, this will only cause stress over situations you can't control.                                                                     
  2. You Are More Secure With Yourself. Feeling secure with yourself is one of the best feelings. It's great when you can trust yourself. You aren't waiting for validation from everyone else. You trust your gut…

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