Taking care of yourself is one of the best things you can do for your health. And, I’m not just talking physically. I’m talking mentally, as well. Taking care of yourself is not selfish. You should not feel guilty about it.

It really is true, you can’t take care of anybody else unless you have taken care of yourself. I see it all the time, you will burn out when you don’t take care of yourself. Why do so many of you put yourself last on the list to be taken care of? Is it an old mindset? There is really no good reason to put yourself last.

 

Here are 10 signs you are not taking care of yourself:

 

  1. Your actions don’t line up with your desires and dreams.
  2. You are abandoning your desires and dreams. And, instead put your partner’s (and everyone else’s) first.
  3. You don’t feel creative and are lacking inspiration. You no longer want to try new things.
  4. You worry all the time, you’re on edge and easily agitated. You feel squeezed or compressed from all angles.
  5. You’re easily frustrated in your relationships. You find yourself getting mad or snapping at others for no reason. You’re even surprised at how irritable you’ve become, and you worry the wrong people are taking the hit.
  6. You’re more tired than energized throughout the day.…

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I have to admit, I really wanted write this article. Almost 50% of the population in the United States is single. There a lot of people that think there is something wrong with you, if you are single. This comes from very old stereotypes.

I have found that there are a lot of people out there, that actually like being single. There can be many different reasons for this. You could of been in a bad relationship in the past, you want to focus on your career, or secretly the thought of being tied down is horrifying to you. You are also aware that the divorce rate is nearly 50%.

Whatever the reason, it’s alright. Being single doesn’t have to suck. This is a time where you can explore the things you like. Take that class you have always wanted to take, travel or even write a book.

Here are 7 things nobody told you about being single.

  1. In the back of your mind you are constantly wondering, “Am I too picky?” Perhaps you’ve been told this. Over the years dating has changed, drastically. If you are single, you probably already know this. I’m hear to tell you, being picky is alright. You may wish you were a little pickier when you were younger. It’s important you know what your deal breakers are.
  2. The question is, “Do…

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“Do not ever let anyone make you feel like you don’t matter, or like you don’t have a place in our American story - because you do. And you have the right to be exactly who you are.” Michelle Obama

Tired of long days at the office? Are you still working weekends, to try and get ahead? If you answered yes, you aren’t alone. We live in a workaholic society. Which means, many people spend a lot of time at the office.

There is a price for working too much. You stop having fun and taking care of yourself. This can lead to burn out. This can affect your mental health and your attitude. We are seeing more and more burn out these days. This means there are many people out there, that aren’t having fun and enjoying life.

We just can’t have that. It’s time to make yourself a priority. This doesn’t mean that you will lose your job or family. I know a lot of you fear this. This also doesn’t mean that you go around treating others poorly.

Here are five tips to help you take care of yourself, and still kick ass at the office:

  1. First you have to believe it.You can start by visualizing or writing out the life you would like to have. Make sure you include things…

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Spring is here, the birds are chirping and we have extra light. Don’t you love it. I’ve noticed that many people didn’t even notice that today was the first day of spring. This tells me they are way too busy.

More and more this is becoming the ‘norm’ in our culture. Whatever happened to take time and smell the roses? Instead, it’s take the kids to school, drive in bumper to bumper traffic, go all day and don’t stop for lunch. 

It’s time to slow down. You life depends on it. Your body needs to rest. It’s like a car. It’s important to take care of it, this means fuel it up and get the oil changed regularly. If you don’t take care of your car, it will break down. The same thing will happen to your body. 

Here are seven days of self care:

Monday: This is one of my favorite days of the week. I know, so many of you hate it. For most this is when the work week begins. I like to start Monday with a good workout at the gym. I go to one of my favorite cardio classes. I love to start Monday’s with a good sweat. This helps get me focused and positive. This is the perfect time to work on changing your mindset. Instead of saying…

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First of all there is nothing wrong with being single in your 40's. Whether your single because you are divorced or you have never married, you're not alone. There are more single people than ever these days. I know many great people who are single in their 40's. They are doing things they never imagined they would do in their 20's.

There is also nothing wrong with wanting or needing to be in a relationship, in your 40's. I'm actually glad that you do. As humans we are designed to need other people. This is the normal process of life. If you are single, this is a great time to get to know yourself better. You can try new things, and even travel to new places.

One of the first things you need to do is to stop criticizing yourself for being single. You also need to stop comparing yourself to all of your married friends. This is easy to do. But, the good news is you can stop. Here are seven reasons to start a relationship in your 40's:

  1. Men and women in their 40's are generally more self-assured. They know what they want, and they aren't afraid to ask for it. I think this is one of the best parts. You don't have to pretend anymore. You aren't scared if things don't work out. You…

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