How To Laugh With Your Partner You Take Seriously

Finding the right person can be difficult, but once it happens you've got to deal with the task of maintenance. This means keeping things fresh and finding time to spend with one another. This means prioritizing your relationship. When a couple enters a relationship, it's on the top of the list. This means having fun together. As time goes on, this changes. Work, the house and the children take priority. Having fun together is essential in a relationship. The two go together. If you aren't having fun together, then you are slowly killing your relationship. Here are ten tips to help you put fun back at the top of the list in your relationship:

  1. Put away all electronic gadgets. We have been conditioned to think we can't live without them, but we can. You really don't need to be plugged in all day or all night, for that matter.
  2. Talk to couples over 65 years old. Get relationship tips from other couples. See what you can take away for your relationship. Ask them how they have kept the love alive and how they have gotten through the difficult times?
  3. Stop and appreciate everything your relationship is right now. When you've been in a relationship for a while, it's easy to focus on the negative. Start focusing on the positive and tell your partner about it.…

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21 Ways To Create Rituals of Connection In Your Relationship


Rituals of Connection are core to a positive and happy relationship. They create shared meaning in the relationship. If you have shared meaning in the relationship, then there is a good chance the relationship is stable and happy. If you don't, then you might be asking yourself, 'Is that all there is?' Sure, date nights, weekend getaways and making love are all part of a relationship. But, people also want to connect at a deeper level. How is your spiritual connection? Do you feel you are creating an inner life together? This is a culture in the relationship, where symbols, rituals and an appreciation for your roles and goals, which also link you together. When you feel this connection, you will understand what if feels like to be part of the union you have joined.

One of the best ways to create shared meaning is to talk about your dreams with your partner. However, big or small they might be. You don't have to agree with your partner's dreams but you need to be respectful and supportive of one another's dreams. Another way to create shared meaning is to create traditions and rituals. Start by talking about the traditions and rituals that you had growing up. Tell your partner you best and worst memories. How could you make them better? What are these rituals…

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Are You Killing Your Friendship By Using This One Word?

It's that one word that we have all used at one time or another. It seems harmless when you use it, but little do you know that when you use it you are slowing killing a perfectly good friendship. Think back to recent voice mails, texts, and emails you have left your friends. Do they go something like: "Sorry I didn't get back to you earlier but I have been busy. I'm just busy as usual. I'd love to get together but I'm busy." The single word is 'busy.' This is driving your friends away and it's time to stop saying it. Instead of saying 'I'm busy," try these three alternatives:

  1. Be specific. Instead of just saying your busy let your friends know what you are doing. This will take more time and effort, but it's worth saying. This will let your friends know how you are and what is happening in your life. This will also help generate closeness in the relationship. For example, say your friend invites you to her birthday party. Instead of saying you can't go because your are busy, let her know why. Let her know that you husband has a work event that evening and she would really like to be there with him. He will be receiving an award he has worked very hard at. Feel the…

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What Are You Waiting For?


Research tells us one of the best things you can do for your relationship, is communicate. Not only do women like this, but men also like it. Don't be afraid to ask your partner questions and let them know what you like. It's easy to get caught up in the hustle and bustle in the world, and to simply forget to tell your partner what you appreciate. It's also easy when you are in a relationship to get caught up in what you don't like about your partner. Think back to when you first met, what stood out about your partner, remember the good times. Here are four steps to help you communicate with your partner:

  1. Turn towards your partner instead of away. The Gottman's research has found couples are always making bids of affection towards one another. They can be as simple as a smile, making eye contact or asking your partner out on a date. What ever the bid is make sure to turn towards your partner. Not only does this help with communication it also helps build trust in the relationship. What's important is the bid is made out of love and that your partner gets the bid. 
  2. Talk about your bids with your partner. This is a great way to open up. This will also help build understanding in the…

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10 Questions You Must Ask Your Partner


If you are in a relationship, then you must read this article. It will help deepen your connection with your partner. This is a time where you would think people are more connected than ever, because of technology. When, actually, they are less connected than ever. It could also be that people are holding themselves back. In a relationship you need to have a meaningful connection. This only comes when you are truly connected. Dr. John Gottman found in his research that updating Love Maps helped keep a couple connected. It's important to update them often, as human beings we are always changing. Here are 10 questions to help deepen your connection in your relationship:

  1. In your life, what has been the biggest blessing in disguise? We've all been there. We never thought it would happen to us. But, a lot of the time when a door closes a window opens. Share your story with your partner.
  2. If you woke up tomorrow with no fear, what would you do first? Now wouldn't that be fun. Use this fun question to find out what your partner really wants do in life.
  3. Does spending time with other people energize or drain you? This will tell if your partner is an introvert or an extrovert. Now, don't make assumptions. People think extroverts are fun and outgoing, and that…

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