Are You Killing Your Friendship By Using This One Word?

It's that one word that we have all used at one time or another. It seems harmless when you use it, but little do you know that when you use it you are slowing killing a perfectly good friendship. Think back to recent voice mails, texts, and emails you have left your friends. Do they go something like: "Sorry I didn't get back to you earlier but I have been busy. I'm just busy as usual. I'd love to get together but I'm busy." The single word is 'busy.' This is driving your friends away and it's time to stop saying it. Instead of saying 'I'm busy," try these three alternatives:

  1. Be specific. Instead of just saying your busy let your friends know what you are doing. This will take more time and effort, but it's worth saying. This will let your friends know how you are and what is happening in your life. This will also help generate closeness in the relationship. For example, say your friend invites you to her birthday party. Instead of saying you can't go because your are busy, let her know why. Let her know that you husband has a work event that evening and she would really like to be there with him. He will be receiving an award he has worked very hard at. Feel the…

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What Are You Waiting For?


Research tells us one of the best things you can do for your relationship, is communicate. Not only do women like this, but men also like it. Don't be afraid to ask your partner questions and let them know what you like. It's easy to get caught up in the hustle and bustle in the world, and to simply forget to tell your partner what you appreciate. It's also easy when you are in a relationship to get caught up in what you don't like about your partner. Think back to when you first met, what stood out about your partner, remember the good times. Here are four steps to help you communicate with your partner:

  1. Turn towards your partner instead of away. The Gottman's research has found couples are always making bids of affection towards one another. They can be as simple as a smile, making eye contact or asking your partner out on a date. What ever the bid is make sure to turn towards your partner. Not only does this help with communication it also helps build trust in the relationship. What's important is the bid is made out of love and that your partner gets the bid. 
  2. Talk about your bids with your partner. This is a great way to open up. This will also help build understanding in the…

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10 Questions You Must Ask Your Partner


If you are in a relationship, then you must read this article. It will help deepen your connection with your partner. This is a time where you would think people are more connected than ever, because of technology. When, actually, they are less connected than ever. It could also be that people are holding themselves back. In a relationship you need to have a meaningful connection. This only comes when you are truly connected. Dr. John Gottman found in his research that updating Love Maps helped keep a couple connected. It's important to update them often, as human beings we are always changing. Here are 10 questions to help deepen your connection in your relationship:

  1. In your life, what has been the biggest blessing in disguise? We've all been there. We never thought it would happen to us. But, a lot of the time when a door closes a window opens. Share your story with your partner.
  2. If you woke up tomorrow with no fear, what would you do first? Now wouldn't that be fun. Use this fun question to find out what your partner really wants do in life.
  3. Does spending time with other people energize or drain you? This will tell if your partner is an introvert or an extrovert. Now, don't make assumptions. People think extroverts are fun and outgoing, and that…

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How To Divorce Proof Your Marriage



Marriage is a journey. When you first get married it is easy and blissful. You look forward to seeing one another. Over time the newness and the excitement wear away. You get used to one another and it may start to seem routine. Over time couples can get lost during this phase. Life gets busy, you have work, children and a home to take care of. So, what happens to the relationship? It gets lower and lower on the list. This is when you want to start to make your relationship a priority, again. Here are four tips to help you divorce proof your marriage:

  1. Open Communication: This is essential to a thriving marriage. Make it a point to keep your partner up-to-date as to what is happening in your life. Make sure to tell your partner one important thing about your day before you depart in the morning. When couples don't communicate they start to lose touch with one another. Your partner may start to fell left out and think you are keeping secrets.
  2. Date Nights: Dating shouldn't be lost when you get married. This is what brought you together in the first place. Take time out of your busy lives to get dressed up and go out on a date. Take the time to plan it, like you did when you first met.…

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How Is Your Emotional Bank Account?


Your emotional bank account is similar to your regular bank account. The more deposits you make the more it grows, the more withdrawals you make the less it grows and it may eventually close. This is just like your relationship. You need to focus on making deposits rather than withdrawals. This doesn't mean that you keep score, that is something entirely different. Keeping score can actually damage your relationship in the long run. Here are five tips to help grow your emotional bank account:

  1. Small deposits often. The small things make a big difference. I'm sure you've heard that before and it is true. Small things can be, smiling and being excited to see your partner. Remembering small anniversaries in your relationship, such as; the first time you met each other's friends and family, a favorite restaurant you went to for the first time, etc.
  2. Greetings and departures. When you come home at the end of the day, put down your cell phone and talk about your day with your partner. Take a genuine interest in what they have to say. When leaving for the day, know at least one important thing that will be happening in your partner's day. However, big or small, this let's your partner know that you care and helps build the friendship in your relationship.
  3. Seven second kiss. Remember kissing,…

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