Three Things Every Couple Fights About, And How To Stop.

"The perfect marriage is just two imperfect people who refuse to give up on each other." Kate Stewart 

Money, sex and the children. I have seen many couples in therapy over the 14 years I have worked as a Marriage & Family Therapist. I have found that many couples have problems on the surface and they need to address the problems underneath the surface. After being in a relationship it's easy to pick on your partner's faults and blame one another if the relationship is going south. 

Over the past four years I have been trained in and using The Gottman Method for Couples. This is a well researched method. The Gottman's have done over four decades of research in working with couples. They have developed a lot of great tools for couples to help with communication and building the friendship in the relationship. Which, by the way, the research has found that a good friendship is crucial in a relationship. This is reported by, both men and women.


One of my favorite tools that they have that helps with communication is Dreams within Conflict. This helps the couple have a guided conversation that helps build understanding in the relationship. One person is the speaker and one is the listener. The speaker is the dream speaker and the listener is the dream catcher. It's easy to want…

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"The perfect marriage is just two imperfect people who refuse to give up on each other." Kate Stewart

Money, sex and the children. I have seen many couples in therapy over the 14 years I have worked as a Marriage & Family Therapist. I have found that many couples have problems on the surface and they need to address the problems underneath the surface. After being in a relationship it's easy to pick on your partner's faults and blame one another if the relationship is going south.

Over the past four years I have been trained in and using The Gottman Method for Couples. This is a well-researched method. The Gottman's have done over four decades of research in working with couples. They have developed a lot of great tools for couples to help with communication and building the friendship in the relationship. Which, by the way, the research has found that a good friendship is crucial in a relationship. This is reported by, both men and women.

One of my favorite tools that they have that helps with communication is Dreams within Conflict. This helps the couple have a guided conversation that helps build understanding in the relationship. One person is the speaker and one is the listener. The speaker is the dream speaker and the listener is the dream catcher. It's easy to…

Read more: Three Things Every Couple Fights About And How To Stop

Tired Of Fighting Over The Same Thing? Here Is How To Stop.


According to The Gottman Institute, "Acknowledging and respecting each other's deepest, most personal hopes and dreams is the key to saving and enriching your marriage." This is based from their empirical research in studying couples. They have done over forty years of research with couples. If you are in a relationship, then you have probably noticed that the same problems come up over and over. 

The research suggests that the perpetual conflict in your relationship may symbolize the differences in your lifestyle and personality. Perpetual problems often come from, not feeling understood by your partner or well-known. It's easy in our fast paced world to forget about our dreams or shove them aside. It's even more frustrating when our partner doesn't even know what our dreams are. 

More than anything, we want to feel like our partner has our back and really gets us. If you don't feel this way, then you start to drift apart. If you feel like this, you are not alone. Many couples go through this after they have been together for a while.

The good news is you can use The Gottman's Institute research to help overcome the perpetual problems in your relationship. Here are seven helpful tips:

  1. Keep working on your unresolvable conflicts. Couples that are demanding of their relationships are more likely to have a happy and satisfying relationship,…

Read more: Tired Of Fighting Over The Same Thing? Here Is How To Stop.

According to The Gottman Institute, "Acknowledging and respecting each other's deepest, most personal hopes and dreams is the key to saving and enriching your marriage." This is based from their empirical research in studying couples. They have done over forty years of research with couples. If you are in a relationship, then you have probably noticed that the same problems come up over and over.

The research suggests that the perpetual conflict in your relationship may symbolize the differences in your lifestyle and personality. Perpetual problems often come from, not feeling understood by your partner or well-known. It's easy in our fast paced world to forget about our dreams or shove them aside. It's even more frustrating when our partner doesn't even know what our dreams are.

More than anything, we want to feel like our partner has our back and really gets us. If you don't feel this way, then you start to drift apart. If you feel like this, you are not alone. Many couples go through this after they have been together for a while.

The good news is you can use The Gottman's Institute research to help overcome the perpetual problems in your relationship. Here are seven helpful tips:

  1. Keep working on your unresolvable conflicts. Couples that are demanding of their relationships are more likely to have a happy and satisfying relationship,…

Read more: Tired Of Fighting Over The Same Thing? Here Is How To Stop

You've just made the huge step of moving in together or getting married. Congratulations! Now, what's next? The dream of hot sex whenever you want it. Splitting the finances 50/50. The possibilities are endless.

Then, reality sets in. You had no idea that your partner was a neat freak. You have no time for friends, and you feel like you don't know one another anymore. As far a sex, maybe you have it once a month, and that's if there's nothing better on T.V. When you are angry at your partner, there is nowhere to hide. You will actually have to talk about your problems. For some this is scary and for others it is not, depending on your style.

You realize that the only people who have the perfect relationship are in the movies. Hopefully, you realize you don't have to have the perfect relationship and start to strive for the good enough relationship. Here are 10 helpful tips to help keep you sane in your relationship:

  1. Make sure you're doing it for the right reasons. For a lot of couples, moving in together just happens. They don't usually weigh out the pros and cons or make plans in advance. Maybe, it just felt right or it was convenient. No more arguing of where you will stay or having to bring an overnight bag.…

Read more: Here Are 10 Tips To Help Keep You In Love (And Sane)

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