We've all heard about and have experienced stress. We live in a fast paced society. Everything must be done now. This is not realistic and can cause unnecessary stress in our lives. It's important to slow down and experience "being in the moment."

We are always worried about the future. We really can't predict the future, so why try? Not only are we always trying to predict the future, we predict the most horrible things will happen. If you are going to spend a lot of time trying to predict the future, then at least have a happy ending. You will eventually get that promotion, buy a home, take your dream vacation, etc. But, you need to give it time.

Here are 10 simple ways to reduce stress:

  1. Be mindful. This is the practice of staying in the present. We can't go back, and like I said earlier, we can't predict the future. So, why not stay in the present. Savor the moment. Add, at least 5 minutes of mindfulness to your day. Set aside a time for it everyday, and stick to it. After a while, you will notice a change and you will feel more relaxed when life seems out of control.
  2. Call a friend. Good friendships are important for a healthy lifestyle. The next time you feel stressed, take some time out and…

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As a therapist, I hear it all the time. 'I just can't do this, or I'm just not good enough, etc.' It's easy to put yourself down. We all have an inner dialogue, it's natural. Unfortunately, many people use it to beat themselves up. This can really bring you down. It's true, we are what we think. Your thoughts will affect how you feel. Here are ten tips to help conquer your inner dragon:

  1. Learn to relax. This is a great way to make your inner dragon go away. Take a yoga class or a meditation class. You can also listen to meditation on your iPod. Take a five  minute break during the day to clear your mind and do some deep breathing.
  2. Have a change of scenery. This sounds simple and it is. Go for a drive on a country road or visit a nearby town. Take a trip to the beach or a nearby lake. This will help mix things up and you won't feel overwhelmed in your own environment.
  3. Avoid negative people. When you're depressed it's not that uncommon to attract negative people into your life. Negative people can drag you further down. You want to be around positive people who will help build you up. This will help decrease depression and help give you a positive attitude.
  4. Don't label yourself. It's…

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You Can Take The Day Off, & Everyone Will Live

'I'd really like to take time off, but I feel guilty."

'I just can't get motivated or stay focused."
'Life has been overwhelming."
Have you ever said any of those things? If the answer is yes, then you need to read this article. "We try to convince ourselves that feeling overwhelmed and stressed out and not having time to take a day off is normal -- but it's not normal," says Dr. Adam Perlman, executive director of Duke Integrative Medicine. "It's just your reality at the moment."
Unfortunately, we live in a workaholic culture. We must always be doing something or we aren't productive. This is the reason so many of us don't feel good. You can plan a vacation, a three-day weekend or just incorporate more breaks into your day. Remember, as human beings we are not computers and we need to take time to recharge our batteries. This is known as taking a mental health day.
Why You Need a Mental Health Day
We've all been there, you know that coworker that comes into the office with a cold. Even though, everyone insists she/he stay home, they don't. It's right before your vacation and you are worried you will catch it. Feeling mentally or emotionally down is not different. It's a legitimate reason to take a day off.
"I'm Me. Perfectly Imperfect." Anonymous…

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How To Get Through The Holiday Season & Not Kill Anyone


Summer is over and fall is here. This means change is near or has already started. For some, it may have never stopped. With busy work schedules and children is school, you may never feel like you have any time for yourself. Next, the holiday season will be here, and we will all be wondering where the year went. Here are ten holiday coping tips to get you through the season:

  1. Go outside and watch the birds and other animals. Nature is a great escape and a good way to clear your mind. Leave all gadgets behind and just enjoy being outside.
  2. Sign up for a class that excites you at a local college, adult school or online. Make sure it is something fun that will help you keep your mind off of work and family.
  3. Make a list of ten things you're good at or that you like about yourself when you're feeling good, and keep it with you to read when you're feeling upset. This will help you focus on the positive rather than the negative.
  4. Take photographs. Take pictures of the outdoors, a pretty sunset, friends and family. Keep them stored on your phone or computer and look at them when you are feeling stressed or overwhelmed.
  5. Read your favorite book, magazine, paper or poem. Reading is good for the brain.
  6. Write…

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We all know what it feels like to be stressed. Stress can happen for many different reasons. Deadlines at work, taking care of the children, paying the bills, etc. Nobody is exempt from stress. And, while some stress might be good, meaning it might help push you a bit. Too much of stress, is not good.

There will be times in your life that you feel very stressed. What's important is that you learn to cope with stress. It's easy to gravitate towards unhealthy coping mechanisms such as: food, alcohol and even drugs. These may help for a little while, but in the long run they will only make matters worse.

What's stressful for one person, may not be stressful for another. It's important that you know what creates stress for you in your life. This is not a time to compare yourself to others. There are many ways to control your stress and keep it at bay. Here are 10 tips to help keep the stress monsters away:

  1. Don't wait until the last minute. We've all been there and we know how that story ends. Remember, when you were in college and you would wait until the night before a term paper was due to write it. You barely made it to class and probably didn't get the grade you would of liked to…

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