I went out to dinner with a couple of friends last night, and as we were chatting one of my friends made a comment that she needs to change the chatter in her head. She needs to stop putting herself down and telling herself that she is stupid and ugly. I immediately complimented her. She is a smart and attractive woman. She thinks this way because she is single. Now, is there any truth to what she is saying? I know plenty of smart and attractive single people. As a Therapist, it amazes me how many people tell themselves horrible things about themselves. People are often harder on themselves than they are on others. So, where does this all come from? It can come from conditioning that happened in the early years of our life. It can also come from comparing ourselves to others and believing we are never good enough. Here are three simple tips to change what you say to yourself:
Let's face it life doesn't always go our way. Regardless, of who you are life is full of surprises. It's best to embrace change and keep moving on. Here are ten tips that can help when life get's tough:
"Perhaps there could be no joy on this planet without an equal weight of pain to balance it out on some unknown scale." Stephanie Meyer
We're all searching for balance, although this may sound simple, in our work hard culture. We hear about people burning out all the time, maybe, you feel burnt out. We can't go back, so there is no point in dwelling over the past. Here are four helpful tips for balance in The New Year:
It's no joke; the antidote for depression is gratitude. Remember the small things and be grateful for them. The Holiday season isn't just about receiving it's also about giving. Studies show that people feel good when they volunteer for those that are less fortunate. I challenge you to pick one non-profit to volunteer for during the holiday season. Make sure to include your family and friends. Here are five tips to help you practice gratitude during the Holidays:
Happy December, it's that time of year, again. The Holiday's can be a great time, but they can also be a stressful time. You may be traveling or having people over. And, the shopping, making sure you buy just the right gift for everyone on your list can be a bit overwhelming. It's also a time to see friends and family members that you haven't seen in a while. For some this is a good thing, for others it isn't. Wherever you fall in this category don't let the Holiday's control you and take over. Here is a simple recipe to help you get through them:
Make sure to get plenty of rest.
Remember to be grateful. Gratitude is the antidote to anger.
Set boundaries, it's alright to say no.
Ask yourself, what the consequences are for yourself if you say yes.
Set aside time for yourself.
Start by getting at least eight hours of sleep each night. Start each day by stating ten things you are grateful for. When dealing with friends and family, remember to set boundaries and say no when you need to. It's alright to think of yourself and what the consequences will be to you, if you say yes too many times. And, lastly don't forget about yourself. Do what you need to do to revive. It can be a bubble bath, a yoga class, or just some down time. Don't forget to add in love to your family and friends and enjoy the season.
The Holidays don't have to be stressful. Remember to smile and be thankful. This will really help during this time of year. For more help, please call me at (650) 892-0357.