Are you tired of feeling stressed out? Do you feel you are working a second shift when you get home? Many people go into a relationship, thinking it will make them happy and reduce stress. Many couples find out, this is not the case.

At first it is bliss. Your partner can’t do anything wrong. But, after a while things change. You begin to see your partner as a real human being, flaws and all. This may start to make you feel unloved and stressed out.

Here are 5 tips for reducing stress in a relationship:

  1. Build a culture of understanding in your relationship. It’s easy to want to fix the problem first. You can’t fix anything unless you have a culture of understanding. This means you need to listen to one another. Share stories about your past. What have you overcome in your life? How was your parent’s relationship. We learn how to be in relationships through our family of origin. What does this mean? You don’t know what you don’t know.
  2. Don’t get caught up in expectations. If you ask me, I think people should go into a relationship without expectations. We live in a world where everything is about setting goals. It’s easy to get caught up in the goal, and miss out on enjoying the process. Neither you are your partner are perfect.…

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Remember when you were a child, laughing came so easily. The average child laughs 300 to 500 times a day. While, the average adult laughs 15 times a day. What happened there? As a child you couldn’t wait to be an adult. Now, you are and life may seem a little stale.

When children laugh, they usually have a good belly laugh. Even when adults laugh, they aren’t always using their stomach muscles. Now, ask yourself when was the last time you had a good belly laugh? One where you just couldn’t stop laughing. Laughing just makes you feel good. It’s better than medicine.

Here are 3 reasons laughter is the best medicine:

  1. It helps activate and relieve your stress response. A good belly laugh fires up and then cools down your stress response. It also increases your heart rate and blood pressure. The result is a good, relaxed feeling.
  2. Stimulates many organs. Laughter stimulates your lungs, heart and muscles. It also increases the endorphins that are released to your brain. You can’t beat an endorphin high. It also enhances your intake of oxygen-rich air.
  3. Soothe tension. Laughter helps stimulate circulation and aid muscle relaxation. This can help reduce some of the physical symptoms of stress.

Laughter isn’t just a quick fix, it’s also good for the long haul. Here are 2 long-term benefits:

  1. Helps relieve pain. Laughing…

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Summer is almost here. This means the kids will be out of school. They will be home and they will want you to find something for them to do. You have work, a husband and a house to take care of. What are you going to do with your kids?

Summer is supposed to be a happy time, a playful time. The sun is shining, the grass is green and it’s time to play. It’s time to slow down. So, why are so many people stressed out during the summer?

In our fast paced society, a lot of people don’t want to slow down. This creates stress. If you ask me, it creates a lot of unnecessary stress. You are so worried about getting ahead, that you forget to have fun. Fun is good for you. It can change your mood and your mindset. Parenting is an important job, but you don’t want to lose yourself in the process.

Here are 5 tips for parents to help reduce stress during the summer:

 

  1. Stay away from the bad news, and be a “good news” junkie. When you turn on the news it is usually bad. This will affect your mindset. You will start to questions things and have a hard time trusting. You will think negatively about the world you live in, and the world…

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Everybody wants to be happy. That is why you spend so much time at work trying to get ahead and make more money. You are told if you do more, you will get more. In reality, that is not always the case.

I have found many people that work a lot and that are trying to get ahead, aren’t happy. What happens is that they feel, it’s never enough. This makes them unhappy and angry. It can also lead to burnout.

I’ve also noticed that when people are having fun, they seem to find happiness. I’ve even heard them say, they just stumbled upon it. We live in a society that leads us to believe, that with more material things we will be happier. But, yet the highest levels of stress are being reported.

You probably know where I am going with this, be happy with what you have. Enjoy the process and trust in it. When you don’t feel forced to get ahead, that takes off the pressure. Then, you can be happy and enjoy life through the highs and lows.

Here are 10 ways to find happiness:

  1. Form deeper relationships. Make an investment in all of the relationships in your life. I know, you don’t have time for everyone. But, when you are with the people you love and know love you back, make…

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We've all been guilty of it. Whether you're beating yourself up about what happened yesterday, or constantly worrying about tomorrow. It's easy to do. You keep running the same old thought process through your head.

'I'm not smart enough, I'm not fit enough, I don't have enough friends or money.' As long as you think this way you will feel stressed out and anxious. A little worrying is alright and even natural. For example, feeling anxious before a big exam or a date with someone you really like.

What I'm trying to say, is you don't want your overthinking to paralyze you or stop you from achieving your dreams. I see so many people in my practice worrying about the same thing. I tell them, ' you can't go back and you can't predict the future.' Stay in the present. The present really is a gift. Enjoy the good times and learn from the bad times.

Here are 6 ways to stop overthinking:

  1. Ask yourself this one question. Is this even realistic? Maybe you shouldn't of said what you said at the meeting. But, does it mean you will be fired? Probably not, we've all done it. Either said too much or not enough.

  2. Replace the old script. After you have asked yourself, is this realistic? And, answered no, it's time to erase that old…

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