Eight Signs Your Teen is Depressed


This post is dedicated to teens. If you have a teenager, then you know they affect your relationship. Which is why I am writing this post. Teenage depression isn't just bad moods and an occasional angry outburst. It's a serious problem that impacts every aspect of a teen's life. Teen depression can lead to drug and alcohol abuse, self-mutilation, pregnancy, violence and even suicide. As a concerned parent, friend, sibling or teacher, there are many ways you can help. Offering support and talking about the problem can go a long way. Here are eight signs that your teenager may be depressed:

  1. Sadness or hopelessness
  2. Irritability
  3. Withdrawal from friends and family
  4. Change in eating or sleeping habits
  5. Lack of enthusiasm and motivation
  6. Feelings of worthlessness and guilt
  7. Difficulty concentrating
  8. Thoughts of suicide or death
You might be wondering if your teenager is depressed or just "being a teenager." It's important to consider how long the symptoms have been present and how severe they are. Also, does your teen seem like his or her usual self. While "growing pains" are to be expected, dramatic, long-term changes are not the norm. Their behavior could be a red flag of a deeper problem.
There is a difference between teenage depression and adult depression. Irritability, rather than sadness is the predominant symptom. They can have unexplained aches and pains. They are extremely sensitive to criticism, this is from extreme feeling of worthlessness. They may withdraw from some people rather than all people. They may keep a couple of friends, whereas an adult can isolate.
Depression in teens can lead to problems in school, running away, drug and alcohol abuse, low self-esteem, reckless behavior and even violence. If you suspect a teenager in your life is depressed, then speak up right away. Help is just a phone call away. You can call the teen suicide hotline or 911, if the teen is suicidal. For more help, please call me for a consultation at (650) 892-0357.

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Three Benefits to Saying


I hear this all the time in my practice. 'I don't want my child to only hear no.' And, I tell them their child doesn't always have to hear no. But, they do need your guidance and assurance. I also hear, 'I was always told no as a child and resented my parents for this.' And, I tell them your child won't grow up to resent you, in the long run they will respect you. I also hear, 'I just can't say no." And, as I have said in the past start to practice saying no, and it will become easier. As your child gets older here are the benefits they will learn from their parents saying no to them:

  1. This is how your child will learn to say no. As a Marriage & Family Therapist, I cannot tell you enough, how much I hear this in my practice, 'I just can't say no or set boundaries for myself.' I hear this from adults that I see all the time. I've also noticed that children that have been picked on at school, sometimes their parents have a hard time saying no or setting boundaries with them.
  2. This will help your child feel confident. I also hear this a lot, 'my child doesn't like to try new things they just aren't…

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