Everybody wants to make their children happy. But, trying to make your children happy all the time is a bust. Nobody is happy all the time. You don’t want to teach your child that they must feel happy all the time. It’s easy to make that mistake. You want your child to have all of the things you didn’t have growing up. This will give them a false sense of security and will backfire.

You and your child don’t have to agree on everything. If you have been a parent for a while, then you may already know this. You may have enjoyed playing sports when you were a child. But, your child doesn’t seem to have much of an interest. Maybe, they enjoy playing the piano or art. That is alright. You put unnecessary pressure on your child when you expect them to like the same things you do.

This is also known as having differences. When it’s alright for you and your child to have differences, you are teaching your child that they don’t have to be like everyone else. As a human being you are complex, you are always changing. That is alright. Your child needs to learn the value of accepting others the way they are.

Here are 5 benefits of accepting the differences you and your child have:

  1. Your child will feel…

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“It’s your life; live it well.” Judge Judy Sheindlin

I’m sure you’ve heard about self-care. We’ve all heard about putting our oxygen mask on first when on an airplane and it starts to go down. And, we know the reason why. You can’t take care of anyone else unless you have taken care of yourself first.

So, the question is, why aren’t you taking care of yourself? It’s a rather simplistic idea. We live in a fast paced society, and nobody want to slow down. You are told you must have more or do more. It’s never enough, has become the norm. Even when you have plenty, you may feel empty inside. It’s time to start wanting what you do have.

Here are 7 reasons to take care of yourself:

  1. Laughter is the best medicine. Remember when you were a child. You laughed all the time. Children can play and laugh all day, if you let them. The next time you have a chance, watch children playing on the playground. They are running around having a good time with their friends. Adults take life very seriously, and forget to laugh. Laughter is good for you. It helps relieve stress and headaches. When was the last time you had a good belly laugh? If you can’t remember, then it’s been too long. Watch your favorite comedy. Spend…

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Single parents and their kids can flourish. This is nothing new. There are lots of single parents out there, that are doing well. Think of people you know, both famous and not so famous, that are flourishing as a single parent. One that comes to mind for me is President Obama. He was raised by a single mom and grandparents.

Being a single parent is stressful. You don’t have to go through it alone. It’s important to reach out to friends and family for help, when you need it. The good news is you aren’t alone. One out of four children in America live in a single-parent home. The reasons can vary. You could be widowed, divorced or decided to have a child without a partner. All of these reasons are alright.

Here are 7 ways to raise a happy child as a single parent:

  1. Remove “guilt” from your vocabulary. It’s easy as a single parent to feel guilty. You feel guilty about the things you don’t have or what you can’t provide for your child. The best thing you can do is spend time with your child. So, make the most of what you have. If you can’t stop thinking about what you can’t provide, make a list of what you can provide. The children have a roof over their head, food on the table and…

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Now, who doesn’t want to raise a healthy child? All of the parents I have seen, want their children to be healthy and happy. Sounds simple, or does it? When you have a child, you have a dream. You have a picture of what life will be like for you, and your family.

After a while, reality sets in. You realize, the dream has changed. You need to make sure the baby is fed, has a clean diaper and enough rest. This goes on for a while. The next thing you know, your child is running around the house.

It’s all about making sure they get to school, have good friends and get invited on play dates. You also have other responsibilities. You may have a job and the house still needs to be taken care of. And, most importantly let’s not forget about your husband. You also don’t want to forget about yourself.

Here are 7 tips for raising a healthy child:

  1. Cheer the good stuff. It’s easy to get caught up in what your child is doing wrong. I want you to catch your child doing something right. Make sure to compliment your child for it. Let your child know how much you appreciate that he shared his pencils with his brother. The more you notice the good stuff, the more it will happen.
  2. Make…

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Parenting is no easy job, and shouldn’t be taken lightly. For those of you that have chosen it, you should congratulate yourself. You are making a big difference in helping the next generation.

 

Parenting and children have changed drastically. Personally, I think video games and the internet are a big part of it. Plus, all the name brands. How do you keep up? It’s important not to compare yourself to others. I know this is easy to do. I honestly, think we are wired to do this. But, it is self defeating and no one benefits.

 

You don’t have to be perfect. Your child doesn’t expect perfection, and you shouldn’t either. What children need more than anything is to feel loved. They need this more than material things.

 

Here are 10 ways to nurture a happy child:

 

  1. Trust your mommy gut. You know your child better than anyone else. If you think there is something wrong, it’s alright to question it. If they are quiet when they come home one day, when they are usually loud. Ask your child what is wrong. If they insist nothing is wrong, it may be time to check-in with the teacher  to see how things are going at school.
  2. Show affection to your spouse in front of your kids. This means kiss, hug and touch. Your marriage…

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