Single parents and their kids can flourish. This is nothing new. There are lots of single parents out there, that are doing well. Think of people you know, both famous and not so famous, that are flourishing as a single parent. One that comes to mind for me is President Obama. He was raised by a single mom and grandparents.

Being a single parent is stressful. You don’t have to go through it alone. It’s important to reach out to friends and family for help, when you need it. The good news is you aren’t alone. One out of four children in America live in a single-parent home. The reasons can vary. You could be widowed, divorced or decided to have a child without a partner. All of these reasons are alright.

Here are 7 ways to raise a happy child as a single parent:

  1. Remove “guilt” from your vocabulary. It’s easy as a single parent to feel guilty. You feel guilty about the things you don’t have or what you can’t provide for your child. The best thing you can do is spend time with your child. So, make the most of what you have. If you can’t stop thinking about what you can’t provide, make a list of what you can provide. The children have a roof over their head, food on the table and…

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Now, who doesn’t want to raise a healthy child? All of the parents I have seen, want their children to be healthy and happy. Sounds simple, or does it? When you have a child, you have a dream. You have a picture of what life will be like for you, and your family.

After a while, reality sets in. You realize, the dream has changed. You need to make sure the baby is fed, has a clean diaper and enough rest. This goes on for a while. The next thing you know, your child is running around the house.

It’s all about making sure they get to school, have good friends and get invited on play dates. You also have other responsibilities. You may have a job and the house still needs to be taken care of. And, most importantly let’s not forget about your husband. You also don’t want to forget about yourself.

Here are 7 tips for raising a healthy child:

  1. Cheer the good stuff. It’s easy to get caught up in what your child is doing wrong. I want you to catch your child doing something right. Make sure to compliment your child for it. Let your child know how much you appreciate that he shared his pencils with his brother. The more you notice the good stuff, the more it will happen.
  2. Make…

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Parenting is no easy job, and shouldn’t be taken lightly. For those of you that have chosen it, you should congratulate yourself. You are making a big difference in helping the next generation.


Parenting and children have changed drastically. Personally, I think video games and the internet are a big part of it. Plus, all the name brands. How do you keep up? It’s important not to compare yourself to others. I know this is easy to do. I honestly, think we are wired to do this. But, it is self defeating and no one benefits.


You don’t have to be perfect. Your child doesn’t expect perfection, and you shouldn’t either. What children need more than anything is to feel loved. They need this more than material things.


Here are 10 ways to nurture a happy child:


  1. Trust your mommy gut. You know your child better than anyone else. If you think there is something wrong, it’s alright to question it. If they are quiet when they come home one day, when they are usually loud. Ask your child what is wrong. If they insist nothing is wrong, it may be time to check-in with the teacher  to see how things are going at school.
  2. Show affection to your spouse in front of your kids. This means kiss, hug and touch. Your marriage…

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Remember when having children was just a dream. How did you imagine parenting would be? It’s easy to get caught up in the fairytale. Not only did you dream your children would play together and get along great, they will also get along great with their parents and everyone else.

By now, I’m sure you realize this isn’t true. Not only is it not true for you, it’s not true for anyone else. All families have their shares of highs and lows. And, not all of our dreams turn out the way we imagined.

Maybe, you’re still in a tiny house or apartment. Then comes the unexpected expenses, you didn’t realize your medical insurance had such a high deductible or the car breaks down. Your parents suddenly pass away or you are forced to move to an area you don’t like. Whatever the reason, life doesn’t always turn out the way we thought it should. 

The reason kids don’t get a long can vary. Maybe, they are two entirely different kids. One likes to be with their friends all the time, and the other is happy at home watching T.V. Whatever the case is, it’s alright to be different from one another. Your kids may also be different from you. When you were their age, you may have loved to read and write. Now…

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Are you tired of feeling tired? Do you feel like you take care of everyone else? Then, this is the article for you. As a parent you have a responsibility to take care of your children. But, this doesn't mean you have to lose yourself in the process. I have seen many wonderful children and families in my practice. I tell almost all of my parents, that they can't forget to take care of themselves.

It's easy to overbook yourself and you child. If this goes on for too long, you will start to experience burnout which can lead to resentment. Maybe, you didn't grow up in a family that valued taking care of yourself, or you just never learned how. If that's the case, that's alright, it's never too late to learn. I think all parents want their children to be happy. This actually starts with you. Children learn by what they see. When they see happy parents, they will experience happy feelings. You are also starting happy and positive habits for your child.

Here are 15 self-care tips for parents.

  1. Say no. Stop saying yes when you mean no. We know you want to be helpful. But, this will only cause resentment in the long run. Make sure you stick to your no. This is also a great way to get respect from…

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