Summer is almost here. This means the kids will be out of school. They will be home and they will want you to find something for them to do. You have work, a husband and a house to take care of. What are you going to do with your kids?

Summer is supposed to be a happy time, a playful time. The sun is shining, the grass is green and it’s time to play. It’s time to slow down. So, why are so many people stressed out during the summer?

In our fast paced society, a lot of people don’t want to slow down. This creates stress. If you ask me, it creates a lot of unnecessary stress. You are so worried about getting ahead, that you forget to have fun. Fun is good for you. It can change your mood and your mindset. Parenting is an important job, but you don’t want to lose yourself in the process.

Here are 5 tips for parents to help reduce stress during the summer:

 

  1. Stay away from the bad news, and be a “good news” junkie. When you turn on the news it is usually bad. This will affect your mindset. You will start to questions things and have a hard time trusting. You will think negatively about the world you live in, and the world…

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Everybody wants to be happy. That is why you spend so much time at work trying to get ahead and make more money. You are told if you do more, you will get more. In reality, that is not always the case.

I have found many people that work a lot and that are trying to get ahead, aren’t happy. What happens is that they feel, it’s never enough. This makes them unhappy and angry. It can also lead to burnout.

I’ve also noticed that when people are having fun, they seem to find happiness. I’ve even heard them say, they just stumbled upon it. We live in a society that leads us to believe, that with more material things we will be happier. But, yet the highest levels of stress are being reported.

You probably know where I am going with this, be happy with what you have. Enjoy the process and trust in it. When you don’t feel forced to get ahead, that takes off the pressure. Then, you can be happy and enjoy life through the highs and lows.

Here are 10 ways to find happiness:

  1. Form deeper relationships. Make an investment in all of the relationships in your life. I know, you don’t have time for everyone. But, when you are with the people you love and know love you back, make…

Read more: 10 Ways To Bring Happiness Into Your Life

Relationship and marital problems are not that uncommon. They come in all shapes and sizes. If you are feeling disconnected or alone in your relationship, you are not alone. The divorce rate is almost 50%. This should tell you something.

As a Marriage & Family Therapist and a trained Gottman Couples Therapist. I can tell you I have seen a lot of problems. My knowledge has allowed me to help many couples through difficult times. I have found that the small things make a BIG difference in a relationship.

So, the question is why do so many of you get away from that? I see it all the time. Work, children and the house take over. This means your relationship gets further down on the list. When you start putting your partner last, your relationship is in big trouble.

 Here are 7 types of relationship challenges:

  1. Perceived lack of concern, care and attentiveness. Feeling like the relationship is one-sided. Alright, you decided to stay home while the kids were young. You wanted to be there to see them grow and change. You sacrificed a lot to do this. You had a thriving career and great friends. Now, he is away at work all day. He has been promoted and works late most of the time. His travel schedule is crazy. This leaves you with all the responsibilities…

Read more: The 7 Types Of Relationship Challenges (And How To Fix Them)

Taking care of yourself is one of the best things you can do for your health. And, I’m not just talking physically. I’m talking mentally, as well. Taking care of yourself is not selfish. You should not feel guilty about it.

It really is true, you can’t take care of anybody else unless you have taken care of yourself. I see it all the time, you will burn out when you don’t take care of yourself. Why do so many of you put yourself last on the list to be taken care of? Is it an old mindset? There is really no good reason to put yourself last.

 

Here are 10 signs you are not taking care of yourself:

 

  1. Your actions don’t line up with your desires and dreams.
  2. You are abandoning your desires and dreams. And, instead put your partner’s (and everyone else’s) first.
  3. You don’t feel creative and are lacking inspiration. You no longer want to try new things.
  4. You worry all the time, you’re on edge and easily agitated. You feel squeezed or compressed from all angles.
  5. You’re easily frustrated in your relationships. You find yourself getting mad or snapping at others for no reason. You’re even surprised at how irritable you’ve become, and you worry the wrong people are taking the hit.
  6. You’re more tired than energized throughout the day.…

Read more: 10 Signs You Are Not Taking Care Of Yourself

Parenting is no easy job, and shouldn’t be taken lightly. For those of you that have chosen it, you should congratulate yourself. You are making a big difference in helping the next generation.

 

Parenting and children have changed drastically. Personally, I think video games and the internet are a big part of it. Plus, all the name brands. How do you keep up? It’s important not to compare yourself to others. I know this is easy to do. I honestly, think we are wired to do this. But, it is self defeating and no one benefits.

 

You don’t have to be perfect. Your child doesn’t expect perfection, and you shouldn’t either. What children need more than anything is to feel loved. They need this more than material things.

 

Here are 10 ways to nurture a happy child:

 

  1. Trust your mommy gut. You know your child better than anyone else. If you think there is something wrong, it’s alright to question it. If they are quiet when they come home one day, when they are usually loud. Ask your child what is wrong. If they insist nothing is wrong, it may be time to check-in with the teacher  to see how things are going at school.
  2. Show affection to your spouse in front of your kids. This means kiss, hug and touch. Your marriage…

Read more: How To Nurture A Happy Child

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